noun || ˈfɚst ˈlʊk
On your wedding day, seeing each other in a private moment before you walk down the aisle.
To start, we need to be clear that we understand the first look is not for everyone, and we never push our couples into doing it. We do however educate them on what their day would look like if they chose to see each other before the ceremony, and many of our clients have happily changed their plans to make it happen. The point is: have an open mind, and consider both options fully.
If I could go back and do our wedding day over again, I would absolutely have done a first look. A chance to see her and calm those nerves, a time to be alone together on one of our best days, a special moment not surrounded by everyone else.
Don’t get me wrong, seeing her come down the aisle for the first time was really special, and my feelings hit me all at once in a wave of emotion when I realized it was really all for real. What I didn’t know then was that seeing her walk the aisle is special in it’s own way, regardless of whether or not we saw each other beforehand. As a photographer, I’ve now seen a bunch of weddings and can attest to this: the sacred time when our couples say their vows isn’t any less sacred if they’ve seen each other beforehand.
Imagine that aisle walk without anybody else around. Just you two, together underneath the swaying trees, cool breeze, and the sun flickering through the leaves. All the feels, all at once, and all the time and space to feel them. Being able to say everything you want to say. Falling into each other’s arms and just resting. No rush, no place to be except with each other.
Doesn’t it just seem right?
After hearing couple after couple tell us that they’re so glad they did a first look (even couples who originally didn’t want one), we highly recommend it. Not only for the reasons I’ve already described, but because it also takes a lot of stress out of the entire day!
We are passionate about capturing beautiful, authentic expression and also minimizing our couples’ anxiety as much as possible. We don’t just show up and take pictures, because them being relaxed and present in the moment is what actually makes the photos work. If you’re anxious to get to your party, that will not only put a damper on your day, but it will definitely come through in the images. With a first look, the rushing around is cut to a minimum, which really allows for you to soak up the excitement of what is happening and for your photos to be full of genuine joy.
The first look is a huge benefit to your bridal party too — if you need to do all the bridal party photos after the ceremony, it’s not just you who will be missing the cocktail hour, it’s your groomsmen and bridesmaids. No one wants to be pulled away from the fun, especially if they are hungry.
You spend so many months, maybe even years, planning for your wedding day. If the thought of missing out on the reception, where all the most important people of your life are celebrating you bums you out, the first look may be a great option for you. Don’t stand by tradition simply because you feel like it’s what you’re supposed to do.
It may not be for you, but if you’re on the fence, we say go for it – do a first look.